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Testing Our Own Work

I Was HungryLiving in the Spirit
June 30, 2016

Scripture Reading: Galatians 6:1-16

My friends, if anyone is detected in a transgression, you who have received the Spirit should restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness. Take care that you yourselves are not tempted. Bear one another’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfil the law of Christ. For if those who are nothing think they are something, they deceive themselves. All must test their own work; then that work, rather than their neighbor’s work, will become a cause for pride. For all must carry their own loads. –Galatians 6:1-5

As a social worker, I have crossed paths with just about every nature of human being, including child and elder abusers. In one year at a children’s hospital, I worked with eight instances of people who killed their children, too many to count who had rendered lifelong physical and mental disabilities on their children, and others who just walked away from children who desperately needed their love. Funny but when one gets caught up in just saving lives and creating some sense of hope and love in horrible situations, one does not have time to exact judgement on the perpetrators. As incompetent as a parent may seem, their children need to understand the parents’ limitations so they do not turn the fault for their situations on themselves. This requires caregivers to see the brokenness in such parents and work to break the cycle of the abuse that results. In most of these abuse cases the perpetrators faced civil judgement. Many went to prison. While that may have been necessary to protect the children from further harm, it just provided another mirror of despair by which to perceive themselves.

‘Do not judge, so that you may not be judged. For with the judgement you make you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get. Why do you see the speck in your neighbor’s eye, but do not notice the log in your own eye? (Matthew 7:1-3)

The Father judges no one but has given all judgement to the Son (John 5:22)*

I take great solace in Jesus’ words regarding judgement, because it frees me and you not to waste our time and energy on something that is out of our hands anyway. Paul’s letter to the Galatians is an attempt to help them refocus their work more on inventorying and addressing their own shortcomings so they can be better prepared to be the means of Christ’s love to a whole world of people in desperate need of it.

Prayer: Lord, forgive me when I feel the need to supplant your role as judge. Help me rather to examine myself to identify my own shortcomings, and heal my soul so that I may serve your more nearly. Amen.

*See also Matthew 25:31-46

All scriptures are quoted from the New Revised Standard Version Bible: Anglicized 
Edition, copyright 1989, 1995, Division of Christian Education of the National Council 
of Churches of Christ in the United States of American. Used by permission. All rights 
reserved.

Is the Lord among Us or Not?

Child abuseLiving in the Spirit
Light a Candle for Children
September 23, 2014

 Scripture Reading: Exodus 17:1-7 

I will be standing there in front of you on the rock at Horeb. Strike the rock, and water will come out of it, so that the people may drink.’ Moses did so, in the sight of the elders of Israel. He called the place Massah and Meribah, because the Israelites quarreled and tested the Lord, saying, ‘Is the Lord among us or not?’ — Exodus 17:6-7

Oklahoma is currently under a court order to improve its child abuse and neglect response system and we are not yet meeting the goals stipulated in that decree. The numbers of confirmed incidences of child abuse and neglect quoted below are nebulous as they only count the cases that were reported and investigated. No one really knows how many children are being abused or neglected. While additional funding was provided by the legislature in response to the court order, it was not enough. The greatest shame, in my opinion however, is the limited attempts to prevent such occurrences from happening in the first place.

In our scripture today as the Israelites rant and rave about whether the Lord is among them, God has already assured Moses that God is present. God continues to be present to God’s people today and stands ready to assists us in meeting the needs of all of God’s children. We, as the people of God, have a responsibility to our fellow humans to assure that their basic needs are met including living in a safe and nurturing environment. It is called loving our neighbors as we love ourselves. Children particularly need advocates to speak for them. They cannot vote and do not have the power to assure their own safety.

 Oklahoma Fact: in 2012, 9,581 children under the age of 18 were confirmed by child protective services as victims of maltreatment that is 10 out of every 1000 children in the state.*

Prayer: Grant us the insight to see you standing before the solutions to our problems, and the courage to act on your guidance. Amen.

*http://datacenter.kidscount.org/data/tables/6221-children-who-are-confirmed-by-child-protective-services-as-victims-of-maltreatment?loc=38&loct=2#detailed/2/38/false/868,867,133,38,35/any/12943,12942

 

All scriptures are quoted from the New Revised Standard Version Bible: Anglicized Edition, copyright 1989, 1995, Division of Christian Education of the National Council of Churches of Christ in the United States of American. Used by permission. All rights reserved.