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Brittle Pride

Living in the Spirit

August 23, 2022

Scripture Reading: Sirach 10:12-18

The beginning of human pride is to forsake the Lord;
   the heart has withdrawn from its Maker.
For the beginning of pride is sin,
   and the one who clings to it pours out abominations.
Therefore the Lord brings upon them unheard-of calamities,
   and destroys them completely.
The Lord overthrows the thrones of rulers,
   and enthrones the lowly in their place.
The Lord plucks up the roots of the nations,
   and plants the humble in their place.
The Lord lays waste the lands of the nations,
   and destroys them to the foundations of the earth.
He removes some of them and destroys them,
   and erases the memory of them from the earth.
Pride was not created for human beings,
   or violent anger for those born of women.

Pride is defined as haughtiness*

Pride is inordinate self-esteem**

Pride is the first of the seven deadly sins. We today use the word more loosely. How many times have you heard someone say, I take pride in introducing our next speaker? I do not think they are being haughty. They are implying that they gain self-esteem by the mere opportunity to introduce someone whom they hold in high esteem.  In reading this scripture we must not substitute wholesome self-esteem for the pride used in the above scripture.

King Solomon is credited with saying Pride comes before the fall.  (See Book of Proverbs, 16:18) I think he is talking about pride that one has when one thinks both that they can never make a mistake or admit it or that they are better than everyone else because of their accomplishments. Brittle pride will get us into trouble every time.

One of my current pet peeves is getting an email taking a poll on whether I approve of a certain candidate. I have no right to approve or disapprove of any person God created and God created all people. What they could ask is whether I approve of the candidate’s position on certain issues. I think the subtle difference in the two questions is one of the major problems in our political systems today. We vote for people for the wrong reasons.

Prayer: Lord, forgive us when our self-esteem rises to a state of brittle pride. Amen.

*https://biblehub.com/hebrew/1346.htm

**https://unabridged.merriam-webster.com/unabridged/Pride

All scriptures are quoted from the New Revised Standard Version Bible: Anglicized Edition, copyright 1989, 1995, Division of Christian Education of the National Council of Churches of Christ in the United States of America. Used by permission. All rights are reserved.

Resilience

resilience-378-225Living in the Spirit
June 29, 2016

Scripture Reading: Psalm 30

Sing praises to the Lord, O you his faithful ones,
   and give thanks to his holy name.
For his anger is but for a moment;
   his favor is for a lifetime.
Weeping may linger for the night,
   but joy comes with the morning. –Psalm 30

God calls us to be a resilient people. We have been created to be springy—capable of bouncing back from mistakes we have made, trouble we are experiencing, grief, and other setbacks of life. This is what the last phrase in our scripture today is describing. We, followers of Christ take further assurance in this regard when we read in John 16:33 that he said, I have said this to you, so that in me you may have peace. In the world you face persecution. But take courage; I have conquered the world!’

This is all predicated on our capacity to love like Jesus loved. When he quotes Leviticus 19:18, you shall love your neighbor as yourself, he is saying we must each come to terms with our own self-worth before we can recognize the self-worth of others. I believe a lot of the discrimination that exists in this world is a direct result of our inability to love ourselves. In order to feel good about ourselves we must place ourselves in a status that is better than some others. Such reaction causes discord and discontent in the world and we waste a lot more time and energy excluding people than we would if we included them. There are enough problems in the world without creating them for ourselves. One of the things the research shows is that high self-esteem can make people more resilient, make them keep on plugging after initially failing at something*.

It may seem paradoxical but the humility we are called to as God’s people is reflective of our self-esteem.

Prayer: Lord make us whole so that we may truly love like you. Amen.

*Frank Stephenson, Muse, February 2005 see at http://unabridged.merriam-webster.com/unabridged/resilient

All scriptures are quoted from the New Revised Standard Version Bible: Anglicized 
Edition, copyright 1989, 1995, Division of Christian Education of the National Council 
of Churches of Christ in the United States of American. Used by permission. All rights 
reserved.

From Dependence to Self-Sufficiency

Today I ChooseLent
February 29, 2016

Scripture Reading: Joshua 5:9-12

While the Israelites were encamped in Gilgal they kept the passover in the evening on the fourteenth day of the month in the plains of Jericho. On the day after the passover, on that very day, they ate the produce of the land, unleavened cakes and parched grain. The manna ceased on the day they ate the produce of the land, and the Israelites no longer had manna; they ate the crops of the land of Canaan that year. –Joshua 1-12

It is a momentous event to witness a person, family, or whole segment of society move from dependence to self-sufficiency. It usually does not come easily and often accompanies a wide array of emotions including regrets from the past and hopes for the future. We experience a small taste of it when we celebrate a family’s acceptance of the keys to their new Habitat House.

Many years ago when I worked as a social worker with persons receiving Aid to Families with Dependent Children, I walked the long journey with one mother who had become a mother too soon. When I met her she had three stair-step children all under the age of five and a long-gone husband. She had not completed high school and had no work experience. She was very intelligent, passed the GED test without any pre-study. She also wanted the best for her children but had never experienced that kind of love herself. She was fearful she would do something or everything wrong. We call it low self-esteem. I think I was the first person who had ever told her she was smart as that was not an important asset in her upbringing. She got a job at a new factory being opened in her home town, started at the bottom and quickly earned her self-sufficiency badge. I closed her case but a few months later she called me in a panic. She had been rushed to the hospital with appendicitis. She thought she was going to lose everything she had gained. I visited her the next day at the hospital where I was greeted with a joy-filled, tearful smile. Next to her bed was a bright bouquet of flowers from her co-workers. The births of all three of her children had been paid for through the Medicaid program. She had become use to the least treatment possible. She was amazed at the different way she was treated because of the wonders of her work related insurance and that bouquet of flowers.

We do need to help people in need to have the basics of life and more than anything else we need to enable them to become self-sufficient like those Israelites in our scripture today who cooked their first meal out of their own crops and no longer needed the manna from heaven.

Prayer: Lord, help us create a world where everyone has enough and no one has low self-esteem. Amen.

All scriptures are quoted from the New Revised Standard Version Bible: Anglicized Edition, copyright 1989, 1995, Division of Christian Education of the National Council of Churches of Christ in the United States of American. Used by permission. All rights reserved.